A Failure to Thrive ... marriage in the 21st century

Waiting for my flight I check my email, “Tina, Duane and I need to come in to see you ASAP.  I found out he has been communicating with another woman and has had drinks with her a couple of times.  I suspect more …” Read More...

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Embracing Our Sexuality

I was recently interviewed by Jennifer Bostrom for the blog spuchablog.wordpress.com - a blog for Campus Housing at Seattle Pacific University. The interview centered around how to cultivate a healthy sexuality integrating sexual beliefs/expression with a Christian faith. Here is the interview:
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How the Teachings of Sexual Purity Leads to Violence

"Tina, I don't know what to do. I'm supposed to be in the honeymoon phase of my marriage ... and we are both sexually miserable." Tears began to flow down her cheeks. Read More...

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America's Sexual Ethic

Silence ... just because it cannot be heard, does it have no effect? And ignorance ... no responsibility?

What is the guiding sexual ethic in our country? Read More...

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Desire … is it of God?

Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

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Children learn what they LIVE

When I was a little girl we had a cloth wall hanging in our family room that I remember noticing every day. As I got older and could read, I would read it. Then as I grew to understand more I would read it and think about what it meant and how it related to my experience. Read More...

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What Children Have to Teach Us about Pure Sensual Joy

There is something so refreshing and soul nourishing in the innocent observations of children. Before they are infected by societal messages of what or who is appropriate and inappropriate, valued and unvalued and all the judgments regarding what they ‘should’ think and feel.  Read More...

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Shame and Sex in America

Here is a question I received from a reader:
"When I look at culture in this country, I see a lot of shame, shame that is attached to sexuality in a fear-based and pathologizing fashion that doesn't seem to be as present in other cultures in the same way. Read More...

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