A Failure to Thrive ... marriage in the 21st century

Waiting for my flight I check my email, “Tina, Duane and I need to come in to see you ASAP.  I found out he has been communicating with another woman and has had drinks with her a couple of times.  I suspect more …” Read More...

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Tools for a Deeply Connected Relationship

When two people commit to each other they do so believing their love is strong and want it to grow even stronger over time.  My dad used to call marriage a Mutual Admiration Society Read More...

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Walking the Talk …

As I prepare for our next Couple’s Sacred Intimacy Retreat as well as a couple of upcoming talks, I find myself thinking about the eight couple’s that bravely ventured into the vulnerable world of intimacy at our last retreat in March. Read More...

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Need more joy? Take 5

Failure to take pleasure in the good things in life dishonors the gifts or accomplishments that deserve appreciation. It also dishonors your desire to know joy.
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We don’t have much time … we better go slow!

Except for paying attention, what else is continual prayer?
Poet Samuel Green

How often do you let the sense of being rushed prevent you from enjoying the moments you have ... with your friends, with your children, with your beloved? Read More...

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Longing for the Silly and Holy

What I Know
by Lee Robinson
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Living In ... and Safeguarding Abundance

A community economy is not an economy in which well-placed persons can make a 'killing'. It is an economy whose aim is generosity and a well-distributed and safeguarded abundance. - Wendell Berry
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Living Marriage - Living Faith

Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Gal 15:22

Marriage as an invitation into the narrative of God's love - how we respond to this invitation ... in the moment to moment ... exposes our narrative of faith.
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Your Body ... the incarnation of you

I have this picture on my screen saver
right now - it speaks of joy, of the
celebration of life, of silliness, of the love of a grandfather for his grandson and of a little boy who adored his "Grand-poop". Read More...

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Eros and the Force of God Within

Years ago life presented me with the experience of online dating ... not an experience for the faint of heart ... yet from which I learned a ton, experienced even more ... and somewhere far down the rabbit hole, met my beloved. Read More...

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America's Sexual Ethic

Silence ... just because it cannot be heard, does it have no effect? And ignorance ... no responsibility?

What is the guiding sexual ethic in our country? Read More...

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It's Your Call

Have you ever had one of those experiences when you are standing in the presence of someone (or a group of some one's) who believe that they know what YOU should think, believe, care about? Read More...

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I hope you dance ...

I stood holding my daugther's hand tears streaming down my face and hers.
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What is the story ... of your life ... of you?

A day bits and pieces - parts of a story ...
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Taken Hostage ... musings by Parker Palmer

A week or so ago I basked on my favorite spot on Orcas Island ... a spot I have visited most years since I was 4. It was over 90 degrees (it is never that hot!) and I was sitting on the edge of Cascade Lake listening to the sound of life's laughter ...Read More...

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Saudade

Its evening ... the light is fading ... I feel tired, slow, reflective. I spent the last 24 hours with graduate students and colleagues sharing stories of the human sort and was reminded of a word that has found its resonance in the cords of life over the last year. Saudade. Read More...

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In Its Time...

A while back while re-reading Gayle Brandeis’ book “Fruitflesh” I was reminded again of the luscious sensual wisdom of our bodies. Read More...

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Stubborn Winters

I don't usually do winter gracefully - I get tired of being cold, I get tired of the gray, I get tired of the waiting ... and tho spring has always come in her time ... like a doubting Thomas, by late winter I always wonder will she leave us this year in our perpetual frozen Narnia? Read More...

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Relative Gratefulness

It's Spring Break and for the university academic that means time to catch your breath, finally get something done or both. This spring break for me, it is both. Read More...

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Delight and Attention ... Communion and Prayer

"Except for paying attention, what else is continual prayer?"

This is the last line of a poem by Samuel Green that speaks of the acuity of our attention in times of mourning. Read More...

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