A Failure to Thrive ... marriage in the 21st century

Waiting for my flight I check my email, “Tina, Duane and I need to come in to see you ASAP.  I found out he has been communicating with another woman and has had drinks with her a couple of times.  I suspect more …” Read More...

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Tools for a Deeply Connected Relationship

When two people commit to each other they do so believing their love is strong and want it to grow even stronger over time.  My dad used to call marriage a Mutual Admiration Society Read More...

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Walking the Talk …

As I prepare for our next Couple’s Sacred Intimacy Retreat as well as a couple of upcoming talks, I find myself thinking about the eight couple’s that bravely ventured into the vulnerable world of intimacy at our last retreat in March. Read More...

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Need more joy? Take 5

Failure to take pleasure in the good things in life dishonors the gifts or accomplishments that deserve appreciation. It also dishonors your desire to know joy.
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We don’t have much time … we better go slow!

Except for paying attention, what else is continual prayer?
Poet Samuel Green

How often do you let the sense of being rushed prevent you from enjoying the moments you have ... with your friends, with your children, with your beloved? Read More...

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Longing for the Silly and Holy

What I Know
by Lee Robinson
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When Love is a Breathtaking Vista

Have you ever had one of those moments when your heart is overwhelmed with joy? Like a flame, the feeling bursts from your center and spreads like a swelling wave across the rest of your body? Read More...

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Next Couple's Intimacy Retreat ........................ Sept 22-25, 2011 at the beautiful Pan Pacific Hotel, Seattle

September 22-25, 2011 at the Pan Pacific Hotel on South Lake Union, Seattle
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Embracing Our Sexuality

I was recently interviewed by Jennifer Bostrom for the blog spuchablog.wordpress.com - a blog for Campus Housing at Seattle Pacific University. The interview centered around how to cultivate a healthy sexuality integrating sexual beliefs/expression with a Christian faith. Here is the interview:
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The Spirit of Sanuk

I was recently in Thailand traveling with my son and his beloved. Like so many times during international travel, I was thrust into the rough edges of contrast between the culture I reside and this new culture. Read More...

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The Holy Erotic

I am sitting on the deck at my temporary Santa Barbara writer's retreat. The sun dances on my eyelids and fills my soul with warm light. Read More...

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Your Body ... the incarnation of you

I have this picture on my screen saver
right now - it speaks of joy, of the
celebration of life, of silliness, of the love of a grandfather for his grandson and of a little boy who adored his "Grand-poop". Read More...

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How the Teachings of Sexual Purity Leads to Violence

"Tina, I don't know what to do. I'm supposed to be in the honeymoon phase of my marriage ... and we are both sexually miserable." Tears began to flow down her cheeks. Read More...

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Eros and the Force of God Within

Years ago life presented me with the experience of online dating ... not an experience for the faint of heart ... yet from which I learned a ton, experienced even more ... and somewhere far down the rabbit hole, met my beloved. Read More...

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I hope you dance ...

I stood holding my daugther's hand tears streaming down my face and hers.
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What is the story ... of your life ... of you?

A day bits and pieces - parts of a story ...
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Saudade

Its evening ... the light is fading ... I feel tired, slow, reflective. I spent the last 24 hours with graduate students and colleagues sharing stories of the human sort and was reminded of a word that has found its resonance in the cords of life over the last year. Saudade. Read More...

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Desire … is it of God?

Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

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Leash Life ... A Parenting Paradox

After a series of events I find myself on a ferry, hopping between island life and the mainland reflecting on parenting teenagers. Read More...

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SEX!!! EDUCATION???

A Reader Question:

What would a healthy sex education look like inside a truly Christian paradigm? How do we teach our kids about sexuality when we believe our bodies and our sexual desires are a gift from God?

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